Secrets to Romance

By Cupid Herself

As the owner of the Singles Station Dating Co., I have the job of what could be called a modern day Yenta, a Matchmaker, and some have called Cupid. I am in the business of love. We don’t just celebrate the day of love once a year, we celebrate it 365 days a year. We have introduced thousands of single people with the hopes that they fall head over hills in love and live happily ever after.

I get calls from members so excited about their new romances. Women talk about the butterflies in their stomach. Men tell us their best buds are complaining that all he wants to talk about is the new woman in his life.

Love really does make the world go round. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs theory actually states that a human being needs to love and be loved by others. Yes, we need love, but we crave romance.

Most of us have experienced the sensation of being in love. The biggest question to ponder is How do you sustain this wonderful feeling in a relationship? Taking a closer look at my members, their relationship flourished by the romantic gestures of each partner. It’s quite simple; each is trying to please one another. Once we get into the routine of a comfortable relationship the demands of family, work and careers put the romance portion of the relationship to the back burner.

Don’t fret it is not hopeless, with just a little bit of work and following the Four P’s to romantic success, the steam can be put back into your relationship.

Following the Four P’s of Romantic Success:
First, decide today that you want to make romance a Priority in your relationship. By making this decision you will begin thinking how you can make time for your partner and do things that will please them. Just like when your relationship was new.

In the movies romance is spontaneous and just happens. In reality actors are following scripts, line by line. You don’t have to follow a script to be romantic, but some Planning sure will help. Remember, a great date doesn’t just happen, someone has to plan it. Start a romance file. Keep fun ideas that you and your partner can do together. The next time you are looking for something fun to do together the answer will be right at your fingertips. And yes we have all heard it before, set aside a date night just for the two of you. It really does work.

Next, keep a Playful attitude. Romantic moments engage the playful side of us. Think back on your relationship when it was new. I bet there was a lot of laughter and kidding around. Lighten up, forget about the mortgage, the kids and work, just find something fun to do together.

You have heard the saying “It takes two to tango.” It’s the same in romance, for romance to flourish both partners must be willing to Participate. You can’t have fun, if one person does not want to be romantic. It is a win win situation when you both are in the game and participate.

By just following the Four P’s, making it a Priority, Planning, being Playful and Participating, you too can add romance to your relationship! Just maybe, you can go from a ho hum relationship to one that is everything you want it to be….just like in the movies!

Charlee Brotherton is a freelance writer and is the CEO and President of Singles Station Dating Co.